Do you know how to be happy? Or, are you waiting for happiness to find you?
Happiness doesn’t appear by magic. It’s something you can cultivate.
So, here are 3 simple tips that you can start applying today:
1. Accept that you can control yourself and your own actions only.
According to an African Proverb: “When there are no enemies within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you.”
According to a research, one participant claimed: “As I started my journey to being happy on purpose, I realized very quickly how little in my life was within my control. I had no power over other people; others will do, think, and feel what they want and there’s little I can do to change or even influence that. I could only manipulate my environment and the things that happened to me to a certain degree. I started to wonder if I could control anything in my life at all and I realized that I can only control myself. More specifically I had control over my attitude and my reactions to what the world throws at me.”
Maya Angelou claims: “If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude.”
2. Balance everything.
Zen Buddhist Proverb says: “Before Enlightenment – chop wood, carry water. After Enlightenment – chop wood, carry water.”
The key between is a Yin and Yang is harmony. Everything has its opposite side, but harmony is in the middle and rules everything and it is the center of life. For instance, one has to make a balance between selflessness and selfishness. If you pick only one extreme it will quickly make you unhappy. Also, the same is with finding a balance between your logic and your emotions – in that way you feel better but also you understand things better.
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So, are you being honest to your own emotions (value them) or are you absorbed in them completely (controlling them)? Your emotions and your logic must work together in order to guide you through a healthy and balanced way of life.
3. Teach how to let it go.
Teach how to let things go that you cannot control or that have happened a long time ago. Instead, be stronger and work on your self-esteem and self-control. You will feel more at peace with yourself and then you will truly enjoy your own life enjoy life in spite of anything bad the world throws at you.
Ask yourself a question: “How’s this good for me?” Is it really helpful to be angry or sad all the time? Are you being useful and productive when you assault someone that upset you? Do you think it is healthy to be obsessed over a person, an issue, or an event that you cannot control?
To let go means to love more and fear less. It is a knowledge about cannot do it for somebody else; that you cannot control everything, and that the result does not depend on you. So, when you let go, you make the most of yourself, not blame someone else or try to change him/her. Finally, letting go is not about regretting the past situations but growing as a person and living for the future moments.